KINDNESS IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS.

It is inevitable – as we are born, so shall we die.  There was a time I feared death so much I would sink into a deep depression, for different reasons.  Religion taught me to fear death because of what we did during the time we lived.  Being bad and going against ‘the word of God’ would land you in Hell, where you would burn to infinity.  For a long time, I thought I was going to burn for eternity because I lived a sinful life as I broke some of God’s rules but mainly for the curse of being born homosexual.

Needless-to-say, I learned a better way than the fearful tactics of organized religion.  I am not hateful to those who believe and practice organized religion, as long as they don’t impose their views onto me.  I learned that being agnostic was the best way I could describe myself in terms of spirituality.

An agnostic is one who believes it impossible to know anything about God or about the creation of the universe and refrains from commitment to any religious doctrine. An atheist is one who denies the existence of a deity or of divine beings.

How can I commit to something that offers no proof?  What I do believe, is that the world in which we live in is magnificent, majestic and complicated.  There are scientific explanations of how we came to be – I understand that and believe those ideas. But, I also believe there is something more unexplainable, spiritual and much more bigger than what we can explain.  I guess that is what people believe to be God.

Whatever our beliefs are in regards to how we came to be, shouldn’t we have a fundamental belief that we should all be respected, cared for, loved and taken care of?  Shouldn’t life and living be that simple?  Imagine if we took the time to not judge the homeless man on the street or shaming someone for being fat, a woman, gay, disabled, native or black?

There is nothing wrong with showing kindness – IT IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS.  Showing kindness is confirmation of the strength and love we have within us.  What is more full-filling than helping someone in need without thinking about what we can get in return?  Imagine the positive change we can instil in others when we give kindness.  By giving of ourselves – we can potential save lives.  Imagine the one day we happen to reach out to someone who craves any type of love, that we change their mind in taking their own lives?

You may think you have nothing to offer – but giving of ourselves doesn’t only have to be of the materialistic nature.  You can show kindness by giving someone your ear (not literally), I’m talking about listening to them.  Being present and acknowledging what they are saying without any judgments. How about offering a smile when you look at a stranger?  So many of us have become disconnected, we don’t engage with one another anymore because of modern technology.  We are constantly on our phones updated our FaceBook status or sharing pictures on Instagram that we forget to be present and in the moment of the company we are with.

Take a moment and think about what positive change you can create in the world with all the kindness you have within you.  What can you do to make the lives of those around you better?  Maybe your kindness, love, compassion and caring comes from the humour you provide to others.  Maybe it’s your empathy, sincerity, honesty and your ability to be the most authentic person you can be.

Again, I reiterate – KINDNESS IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS.  It’s a sign that you are present, connected, authentic, compassionate, caring and full of love to give to others.

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

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WHO HAVE YOU MADE JUDGMENTS AGAINST TODAY?

How many times have we come across situations we become uncomfortable with and how many times have we judged the people who are in those uncomfortable situations?  Instead of judging others based on their appearance, we should all take the time and try to understand why they may be in that situation.  Here are some examples of how we judge others without knowing the circumstances:

  • The homeless – we assume that they are addicts, are crazy and are they because they want to be there.
  • That “crazy” person screaming on the corner – again we make assumptions without understanding that person’s situation.
  • The lady who is talking to herself beside you on the bus.
  • The angry woman at the market.
  • The young boy who prefers to put on high heels on rather than play with trucks or the young girl who would rather play baseball than be a princess.
  • The guy in the park passed out beside an empty bottle of alcohol.
  • The large man or woman eating at a fast food change.
  • The man/woman walking into traffic – could be blind and not understand what he is doing.
  • etc..

Prior to making judgment’s against any other person – we should practice empathy.  When you see someone in any of the situations above, imagine yourself in their shoes.  Wouldn’t you want someone to reach out to you?

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

WHAT WILL YOU ACCOMPLISH TODAY?

What tasks or chores do you have to complete today?  Will your goals satisfy your heart and soul?

Think about the things we must do on a daily basis – they really don’t have a purpose except that we have to do them and we will either function and move on with our day.  Now, think about things that you want to do that will provide you with positive feelings and make you feel great for the rest of the day.  What will you accomplish today that will inspire others and the will ensure positivity throughout your day?  Here are some suggestions:

  • Teach your dog a new trick.
  • Talk your cat for a walk (yes, they need walks also).  Imagine the all the positive reactions you will have during your walk.
  • Compliment at least 10 coworkers or friends for no reason whatsoever.
  • Feed the homeless.
  • Volunteer to help animals/people who need help.
  • Learn something new that you didn’t know about yourself.
  • Run an extra mile.
  • Meditate.
  • Think before you speak and only allow yourself to say positive things.
  • Love without judgements.

Anything you accomplish is something to celebrate – however small or big.  Always look at your life and the lives of others with respect and positivity.  Always write down what you want to accomplish – and always be positive about it.

Have fun and may your goals create positive change in the universe.

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

TAKE WHAT YOU WANT FROM ME…..

What is going on in your life right now that has got feeling low energy feelings?  Do you feel like you can’t get support or encouragement from anywhere or anyone?  The reason I write my blogs is so that people can be inspired or take whatever it is they are seeking after reading my posts.  So, I offer myself and hope that you can take whatever it is you need and lift yourself up!

LOVE

ENCOURAGEMENT

LAUGHTER

JOY

HEALING ENERGY

POWER

STRENGTH

PATIENCE

COMPASSION

FAITH

GENEROSITY

“You won’t find him drinking under tables

Rolling dice or staying out ’til three

You won’t ever find him be unfaithful

You will find him, you’ll find him next to me

You won’t find him tryna chase the devil

For money, fame, for power out of greed

You won’t ever find him where the rest go

You will find him, you’ll find him next to me

When the money’s spent and all my friends have vanished

And I can’t seem to find no help or love for free

I know there’s no need for me to panic

Cause I’ll find him, I’ll find him next to me

When the skies are grey and all the doors are closing

And the rising pressure makes it hard to breathe

When all I need’s a hand to stop the tears from falling

I will find him, I’ll find him next to me

When the end has come and buildings falling down fast

When we’ve spoilt the land and dried up all the sea

When everyone has lost their heads around us 

You will find him, you’ll find him next to me”

The above words are from a terrific song that continues to inspire me to continue my advocacy for our planet, the environment, animals and anyone who needs encouragement and positive reinforcement.  The song is by Emeli Sande.  You can find it via iTunes or by visiting her website:  http://us.emelisande.com

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!  

RULES FOR LIVING A HAPPY AND POSITIVE LIFE

Some rules to insure your life is filled with happiness, health, well-being and love:

  • Don’t take yourself too seriously.
  • Make sure you are able to laugh at yourself.
  • Try not to focus on being right all the time but being open to new ideas.
  • Any sentient being feels pain and has feelings – try to remember that in everything you do or say.
  • Find holistic ways to treat ailments before taking pharmaceutical drugs.
  • Remember – it’s not what material things you have that make others like you, it’s how you present yourself.
  • Do something nice for a stranger everyday.
  • Remember – the energy you put out into the world is the same energy you attract, be kind and receive kindness.
  • Respect all our great mother – EARTH, she is the only one we have.
  • Find your passion in life and try to make it your job.  Nothing like doing what you love for a living.
  • If you find ‘static’ or ‘negative’ energy in your life – it is to your benefit to remove it.
  • Take some time to be with yourself – meditate and tell yourself you are worthy, beautiful and loving.
  • Take your time with any goals you have for yourself – added pressure will only ensure that you may not meet them.
  • Don’t do something because you feel you have to – make sure you want to do it.
  • If you can’t love yourself, you will not be able to love others.
  • Look into a mirror on a daily basis and tell yourself you look great and you are happy and healthy.
  • Don’t be afraid to tell others that they are wonderful.
  • Act from LOVE and all you will receive is LOVE.

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Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

I AM…..

I am FORGIVENESS

I am COMPASSIONATE

I am SILLY

I am FUNNY

I am HOMOSEXUAL

I am in love with the EARTH

I am an activist for ANIMALS

I am VEGAN

I am not PERFECT

I am a good FRIEND

I am AUTHENTIC

I am LIGHT

I am NATURE

I am TRUTHFUL

I am an ARTIST

I am a LOVER

I am COMFORTABLE

I am CONTENT

I am POSITIVE

I am HOPEFUL

I am LOVE

I am GOD

Don’t allow the negative perceptions of others determine how you see yourself.  Once you are comfortable in your own skin, it will not matter how others see yourself as long as you know how much you shine!

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SONGS/VIDEOS TO MAKE YOU FEEL PROUD – IN CELEBRATION OF PRIDE and LOVE EVERYWHERE!

In celebration of Gay Pride, Love and Positive Energy – I decided to share some music videos that have thought provoking messages, are relevant in terms of the songs message or simply make you feel like you want to dance.  Whether you identify as gay, straight, bisexual or transgender – let your true colours fly and do it without judging someone else’s authenticity.  Now let’s celebrate PRIDE by spreading love and positive energy into the world:

NOTHING REALLY MATTERS (REMIX) – Madonna

YOU DON’T KNOW – Cyndi Lauper

FEEL WHAT YOU WANT – Kristine W

FREE – Ultra Nate

POWER OF LOVE – Deee-Lite

PROUD – Heather Small

MODERN LOVE – Rupaul

A LITTLE RESPECT (HMI Redux) – Erasure

AFTER ALL – Billie Ray Martin

GLASS & PATRON – FKA Twigs

BRING THE NOIZE – M.I.A.

LIGHT IN PLACES – Peaches

LIVING FOR LOVE (Remix) – Madonna

Let music move you towards creating positive change in the world.  Allow LOVE into your heart and live with positive energy within your heart.

HAPPY PRIDE to everyone!!!

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

BE KIND and SPREAD LOVE

When you look at people – look them directly in the eyes and smile.

Help anyone who is struggling to open a door or to walk up a flight of stairs.

Compliment everyone you talk with today.

If you encounter someone who is asking for money, ask them if you can buy them lunch.

You don’t know what another person is going through or what is happening in their lives – so be kind and act from love and without judgments.  Just because someone is homeless and asking for money, it doesn’t mean that they are dependent on drugs or alcohol.

When you act from a place of love without accepting to get something in return, you will only receive what it is you give out.

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Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

ON LOVE – KAHLIL GIBRAN

Kahlil Gibran was born into a Maronite Catholic family in northern Mount Lebanon, a semi-autonomous part of the Ottoman Empire, in 1883, Gibran received no formal education, but was taught by a local priest. When he was 12, he emigrated with his siblings and mother to Boston, Massachussetts. There, Gibran’s art teacher noticed his abilities and found support for him in the Boston art scene.  When he was 15, his mother sent Gibran back to Lebanon to complete his education.

He held his first exhibition in Boston when he was 21 and, apart from his art, he wrote poetry and novels in Arabic and then in English.  The Prophet, written in English, was published when he was 40.  He published more novels, but his health was failing and he died of cirrhosis of the liver and tuberculosis in 1931 in New York City, at the age of 48.  According to his wishes, he was burred in Lebanon.

Kahlil Gibran on Love

THEN said Almitra, Speak to us of Love.  And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them.  And with a great voice he said:

  When love beckons to you, follow him. 

  Though his ways are hard and steep.

  And When his wings enfold you yield to him, 

  Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.

  And When he speaks to you believe in him, 

  Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.

For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.

  Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.

  Even as he ascends to your heights and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, 

  So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.

Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.

He threshes you to make you naked.

He sifts you to free your from your husks.

He grinds you to whiteness.

He kneads you until you are pliant;

And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God’s sacred feast.

All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life’s heart.

But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure, Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor, 

Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.

Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;

For love is sufficient unto love.

When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,”  but rather, “I am in the heart of God.”

And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.

Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.

But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:

To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.

To know the pain of too much tenderness.

To be wounded by your own understanding of love;

And to bleed willingly and joyfully.

To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;

To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;

To return home at eventide with gratitude;

And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

***All of the above is included in Kahlil Gibrans book, The Prophet.

I was introduced to the writings of Kahlil Gibran twice in my life.  The first time was when I lost my beloved pet, Freddy.  A good friend and co-worker send me an email message of sympathy with a very lovely quote from Kahlil.  Due to the pain I felt for the loss of my pet, I don’t believe I was ready to receive the message and consciously connect with his writings at that time.  The second time I was introduced to Kahlil’s writings was through another co-worker who read me excerpts from the book, The Prophet.  This time, I was ready to really listen and hear his words.  I was moved and went and purchased the book immediately.  I couldn’t believe that someone could write such words and have them complete move me.

In The Prophet, Kahlil shares his thoughts, ideas and words on love, marriage, children, eating and drinking, living, work, joy and sorrow, clothes, buying and selling, crime and punishment, laws, freedom, reason and passion, pain, self-knowledge, teaching, houses, friendship, talking, time, good and evil, prayer, pleasure, beauty, religion, and death.  I take much comfort each time I pick up The Prophet and read his words as it reminds me how important it is to live in each moment and to enjoy that very moment you are in.

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

MY MOTHER – MY HERO and INSPIRATION

Martin Luther King Jr., Jane Goodall, Ingrid Newkirk, Mother Teresa, Gandhi, Oprah Winfrey, Barack Obama and Nelson Mandela are some of the people who have inspired me to create positive change in the world.  These people were pivotal in starting movements or giving people inspiration to create their own movements.  I admire them and look up to them but there is no other person that has inspired me more in my life than my mother.  She may have not have inspired millions to join a political or social cause but she did save my life more than once.

The first time my mom saved my life, was shortly after I was born.  Due to minor birthing complications, I was told that I needed to see a specialist and that I required a blood transfusion.  With the lack of financial resources and much determination to save my life – my mother managed to get me to a specialist and I received the blood transfusion.  The specialist told my mother that modern medicine could only do so much and that my life was in the hands of a greater power.  My mother believes that God saved me and I love her for that.  I believe that it was her determination and her love for me that gave me a chance to live.

Throughout my life’s journey, I have had moments of insecurity, doubt and I have often thought about suicide.  My mother and the thought of her strength, dedication and love that allowed me to find the light each time I came out of those dark moments.  I truly believe that her love, her smile, her belief in me and kind words gave me my courage, my strength and my will to live each day.

Looking back throughout my childhood and throughout my life, I have never heard my mother maliciously cause pain and grief for any other person.  She was always kind, respectful and loyal.  My mother ensured all of her children (7 girls and 2 boys) all received love and attention.  Despite the fact that she not only raised 9 children, she worked throughout the day and came home to ensure we had food on our plates and that we were all taken care of.

Remember all the good that your mother gave and all the sacrifices your mother has made to ensure you were loved.  Not only on THIS mother’s day but everyday you are lucky enough to have your mother with you.  I celebrate my mother today and everyday.  I also give love to all those who were unfortunate to lose their mother’s too early and were not able to allow their relationships to flourish.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

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My groovy mother. So pretty.

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My young mother, just before coming to Canada.

Mom and I.

Mom and I.

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My mother and I.

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Mother and I and at my one of my sister's (Paula) wedding.

Mother and I and at my one of my sister’s (Paula) wedding.

Another picture of mom and I.

Another picture of mom and I.

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My mother and I at my nephews (Romalito) wedding reception.