WORDS TO LIVE BY…….

Such great and simply words.  Who wrote them and who sang them………..

You only see what your eyes want to see 
How can life be what you want it to be 
You’re frozen 
When your heart’s not open 

You’re so consumed with how much you get 
You waste your time with hate and regret 
You’re broken 
When your heart’s not open 

Mmm, if I could melt your heart 
Mmm, we’d never be apart 
Mmm, give yourself to me 
Mmm, you hold the key 

Now there’s no point in placing the blame 
And you should know I suffer the same 
If I lose you 
My heart will be broken 

Love is a bird, she needs to fly 
Let all the hurt inside of you die 
You’re frozen 
When your heart’s not open 

Mmm, if I could melt your heart 
Mmm, we’d never be apart 
Mmm, give yourself to me 
Mmm, you hold the key 

You only see what your eyes want to see 
How can life be what you want it to be 
You’re frozen 
When your heart’s not open 

Mmm, if I could melt your heart 
Mmm, we’d never be apart 
Mmm, give yourself to me 
Mmm, you hold the key 

If I could melt your heart

GAY and PROUD!!!!

Imagine a world where the ‘normal’ was for men to be with men and women to be with women.  Imagine if this was all you knew, saw and heard everyday of your life.  Imagine people  (family, friends, strangers – everyone around you) telling you how amazing their same-sex relationships were.  Imagine being told that having feelings or loving someone of the opposite sex was going against nature, God, and was an abomination.  Imagine being told that you would be threatened with violence if you were caught holding hands, kissing or showing affection to someone of the opposite sex.  Imagine being afraid of loving the person you are with today because it was not right in the eyes of society – how would you feel and what would you do?

For as long as I can remember – I had an attraction to men.  As soon as I was able to understand that these feelings were not the same feelings held by the majority of people around me, I knew something was wrong – but that wrongness was not with me!  I never shared my attraction with anyone because I understood that my feelings were not accepted by family, friends and society in general.  I remember people who were ‘out’ being mocked by family and friends – I was called a ‘faggot’ many times knowing that this was a negative term used for men who liked men, even though I was not ‘out’.

Growing up was difficult – especially during my early teens.  Growing up in a Catholic household and then becoming Jehovah’s Witness for a brief period – I realized, although religion preached about love and acceptance, that they were not accepting of the homosexual lifestyle.  I also heard what friends thought of gays and lesbians – there was always hate in their voice(s) when speaking of them and some even expressed their need to threaten them with violence.  I remember my family being insensitive to the homosexual lifestyle as well – I remember the ‘fag’ jokes from other siblings and often being called a ‘sissy’ from them and even my parents (even though they did not have confirmation that I was gay).  Society didn’t make it a lot easier as well.  The AIDS epidemic was God’s punishment for homosexual behaviour – it was God’s way for punishing us for our great sin.  Homosexuality was considered a disease/illness until the late 60’s.  There were so many acts of violence committed towards gays – the assassination of Harvey Milk, the brutal killing of Matthew Sheppard, the police raids of gay bars across the United States – most notably at the Stonewall Inn on Saturday, June 28, 1969 which led to the Stonewall riots.  Witnessing all this – why on earth would I want to condemn myself to such bullying and hate?  My only answer was to live separate lives – a life to please society, my friends and my family and another life (my true authentic life) to myself.

I dated girls and really tried to accept heterosexuality as the norm (for me) – even though I knew I wanted to be with others of the same-sex.  I lived a gay lifestyle in secret, no-one knew that I had gay friends and I dare not let anyone find out – I was fearful.  Many of the gay men I knew were either closeted or living openly without the support of friends or family because once they found out they were gay – they were deemed ‘outcasts’.  I did not want that to happen to me (at that time).  I continued to live as both a straight man and gay man and this duality started to show signs of stress.  I turned to alcohol and drugs (nothing too hard core) to numb my feelings and to alleviate the pressure I was feeling in living this dual life.

Eventually – and thankfully, I learned to accept myself and became comfortable knowing that there was nothing wrong with me – I couldn’t change the dynamics to which I was born.  l learned that I had much internal homophobia.  I released my rage and internal homophobia out on partners I was supposed to love, nurture and learn from.  All the hate and judgement that was imposed onto me from societies homophobes throughout the years really carried into the relationships I had with other men.  I remember hearing people saying that the gays (not so much lesbians) were very promiscuous, they loved to engage in ‘risky’ sexual behaviour, they lived a life drenched with drugs and alcohol and all they did was party all the time – we were deviants and were not like the rest of civilized society.  During a point in my life – I believed this, even as a gay male but I came to learn that this was not the case and that many gay and lesbian individuals wanted nothing more than to have a partner and be happy just like everyone else.

I am happy to say – that I have dealt with many of my issues and have forgiven all those who have made judgements about me.  I would not be the person I am today without having to face the issues that I was supposed to face.  I don’t blame society for their lack of ignorance to what they don’t know and understand – I am not their judge or jury.  I live my life treating others in the same manner that I want to be treated – with dignity and respect.  I have been with my partner and spouse for over 20 years.  My love for him is a strong as the love my mother and father have for each other – there is no difference except that Jason and I happen to be of the same-sex.  He is not my wife and I am not his – we are same-sex partners.  Our love is great and only becomes greater with time.  I have learned so much from him and cherish the moments we have had together and look forward to many more.  Jason and I laugh together, we cry together and we grow together.  I have never been more proud of anything else in my life than my relationship with him.

Think about a world where everyone around you is gay – the ‘norm’ is that men are partnered with men and women with women.  Televisions shows, movies, commercials, magazines and newspapers all cater to same-sex couples.  Imagine that you meet the person of your dreams and they happen to be a person of the opposite sex – you thought about them day and night – you knew the feelings inside you were normal and that everything about you and those feelings were normal but everything and everyone around you is says otherwise.  Imagine not being able to show that person that you loved them by holding their hand or kissing them affectionately?  Now imagine living that life – I certainly did and today I live a life where I am GAY and most definitely PROUD!!!!  HAPPY PRIDE everyone!  (Listen to Heather Small’s words in the video below called PROUD)

DON’T GIVE UP!!!!!

I have recently returned from camping at Awenda Provincial Park on Georgian Bay in Ontario.  I had a great and relaxing time!!  I reconnected with nature and marvelled at how glorious and unspoiled the park was.  I hope that whomever reads this post has an opportunity to reconnect with nature  – it will rejuvenate you and give you clarity.

During the brief camping trip, I was so engaged with nature’s beauty that I felt various emotions come over me and asked myself; How could we allow nature’s destruction at such an alarming rate, not only here in Canada but around the world?  I also thought of all those people who are unable to enjoy this beauty for whatever circumstances.  I am so thankful to be able to have my senses and see, feel, smell, taste and hear the wonder that is nature.  This trip also reinforced my commitment to do whatever I can to help with environmental issues.  I thought of song as I swam in Georgian Bay that really embodies my desire to never give up on any passion I have in my life.

In this proud land we grew up strong
We were wanted all along
I was taught to fight, taught to win
I never thought I could fail

No fight left or so it seems
I am a man whose dreams have all deserted
I’ve changed my face, I’ve changed my name
But no one wants you when you lose

Don’t give up
‘cos you have friends
Don’t give up
You’re not beaten yet
Don’t give up
I know you can make it good

Though I saw it all around
Never thought I could be affected
Thought that we’d be the last to go
It is so strange the way things turn

Drove the night toward my home
The place that I was born, on the lakeside
As daylight broke, I saw the earth
The trees had burned down to the ground

Don’t give up
You still have us
Don’t give up
We don’t need much of anything
Don’t give up
’cause somewhere there’s a place
Where we belong

Rest your head
You worry too much
It’s going to be alright
When times get rough
You can fall back on us
Don’t give up
Please don’t give up

‘got to walk out of here
I can’t take anymore
Going to stand on that bridge
Keep my eyes down below
Whatever may come
And whatever may go
That river’s flowing
That river’s flowing

Moved on to another town
Tried hard to settle down
For every job, so many men
So many men no-one needs

Don’t give up
’cause you have friends
Don’t give up
You’re not the only one
Don’t give up
No reason to be ashamed
Don’t give up
You still have us
Don’t give up now
We’re proud of who you are
Don’t give up
You know it’s never been easy
Don’t give up
’cause I believe there’s the a place
There’s a place where we belong

Thank you Peter Gabriel and Kate Bush for giving so much emotion to this song.  Whatever you do in your life – don’t give up!  Stand strong for what you believe and don’t give up!  Be proud in your convictions and don’t give up!  If someone tells you you can’t do something – stand your ground and don’t give up!  Find your passion and don’t give up!  Don’t Give Up!

Here is the video – ENJOY!

ENJOYING NATURE FOR THE NEXT FEW DAYS

As the weekend approaches – I am thinking about my time reconnecting with friends and more importantly with nature.  The next few days will be spent appreciating what our beautiful world has given to us.  Jason (my spouse), and my friends (Anna and Jason, along with their daughter Clara) will be camping at Awenda Provincial Park in Ontario.  The park is located in Penetanguishene, Ontario – a few hours from my home in Whitby, Ontario.  I look forward to enjoying Georgian Bay and Awenda and will make it a point to meditate and ask that love and positive energy be spread out into the world.  Here is a link to their website:

Awenda Provincial Park

During my time reconnecting with nature – I will not be creating any new posts.  I hope you take the time to enjoy some of my previous posts and would appreciate you spreading the word of positivity into the world!!!

 

Some of my favourite YouTube videos!!!!

I find these stories to be inspiring and that we can learn so much from them.  I hope you find them useful and I hope that they help you in creating a more positive, loving and healthy life!

TARA and BELLA

CHRISTIAN the LION (from the documentary – A Lion Called Christian)

SURYIA (the orangutan) and ROSCOE (the hound)

NICK VUJICI

DOG SAVED FROM DROWNING (photo slide show) – No words needed!

RICOCHET the SURFice DOG

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH – GREENPEACE (The Courageous Acts Greenpeace activists take to help save our planet)!

ZACH WAHLS ABOUT FAMILY

ARME rescues BEAGLES from a lifetime in a crate

What emotions do these videos bring out in you?  Allow your heart to feel – remember that feeling and act to make this world – OUR WORLD a more safe, clean and positive one for all of us – humans and animals!

SPREAD THE WORD – http://www.coalitionofpositiveenergy.com

Love, light and happiness!

QUESTIONS to ask yourself, think about, consider and possibly ACT ON!

I have said this many times before – there are so many people on this planet who do not have the slightest clue as to what is going on in our world.  Most of us are not really aware of where we get our food, our clothing, medicine, water, televisions, cars, etc.  We also don’t want to consider the outcome of our actions in terms of what we buy, where we buy it from and where it ends up.  Why are most people more concerned about Kim Kardashian’s partners or Lindsay Lohan’s life than the more serious issues that are happening around them such as; the environment, gun control, health care prevention, poverty, starvation and so many other world issues.  My thoughts are – people don’t want to think of these things because they are already in a state of anxiety and depression.  They have to work their asses off to make rent/mortgage payments then feed themselves and their children.  They have to worry about their commute to work and getting there on time for fear of losing their job.  They have to worry about paying their huge post-secondary loans or not becoming ill (if they don’t have health care coverage).  We have to stop looking to our politicians who are always saying ‘we can’t’ and take it upon ourselves to ensure that WE CAN change our world towards a more positive and inclusive one for everyone!

You may have thought about some of these questions but have you really?  Take a moment and think about finding the answers to some of these questions they may surprise you or even make you spring into action to resolve some of them:

  • How much ‘safe’ drinking water do we have left?
  • What are the environmental impacts of rasing cattle?
  • Are there really enough fish in the oceans?
  • Why have cancer rates increased dramatically in the last 50 years, even with all the fundraising money that was raised?
  • How many trees are left to clear cut? (No we don’t want to cut them down anymore – ask yourself why?)
  • Why is there a huge increase in Chronic Respiratory Disease (too many cars on the road – gases in the air)?
  • How many animals will be extinct or on the endangered species list when your children are your age? Can we fix this?
  • Why are governments not doing more to save our environment?
  • When you can, do you give money to a homeless person without judgement?
  • Do you kill a bee, swat a fly, step on ants or try to avoid from hurting them?
  • Is there enough land to continue to all developers to build without consequence?
  • Why do big oil companies (Shell) want to drill in the Arctic?
  • How much more can our world handle?
  • Is there really healthier, safer and more sustainable resources than fossil fuels?
  • What are you willing to do for a cleaner, brighter and positive planet?
  • What drives you – having more money or having your health?
  • Where is all of our garbage going?
  • Should we continue to invest in military action or environmental issues?  (There can be no military without a planet)
  • Do you know who Kim Kardashian or Lindsay Lohan are?  (lol)

In all seriousness – I could add a million other questions pertaining to our planet, environment, philanthropy etc….but we don’t have the time.  We all must do our part to ensure a brighter tomorrow.  I have said this before – ONE PERSON CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE, imagine what an army of people can do!  Don’t tell yourself you can wait until tomorrow to act for the greater good of our planet – ACT NOW.  Visit the websites of Greenpeace or The World Wildlife Fund – they can keep you abreast of what big corporations and governments are doing or not doing to create a better tomorrow.  We must hold them accountable and demand better!  Get out of your ‘haziness’ – open your eyes and become involved, awaken your soul and become connected to our environment, planet and universe!!!  I promise you will feel more alive than you ever were.

Love, light and happiness to all of you!

http://www.greenpeace.org/international/en/ (Greenpeace)

http://wwf.panda.org/ (World Wildlife Fund)

AN EMAIL FROM GREENPEACE!

I thought I would share an email I received from GREENPEACE.  I like to follow them because their belief’s about our environment and its’ importance to our sustainability are similar to mine.  I appreciate the success stories that they share and am saddened when I hear about the atrocities that we humans are inflicting on our environment and wildlife.  Please support them in any way you can – here is the email:

Hi there,

The Arctic holds a special significance for Greenpeace. The campaign that gave birth to our movement over 40 years ago stopped nuclear testing in Alaska.

Many people thought a nuclear test in Alaska wouldn’t affect them. But if you live on Earth, it affected you.

The radiation from those tests swirled around the world and entered your eyes and my eyes and everyone’s eyes.

Forensic pathologists can tell a victim’s age by looking for radioactive carbon in the eyes. If you were born in the 60s or early 70s like me, you’ll have more radioactive carbon. The level gradually decreases for people born after nuclear testing ceased.

The founders of Greenpeace won their campaign and helped stop nuclear testing. But now things are happening in the Alaskan Arctic that could change a lot more than just the carbon in our eyes.

Some people see the Arctic as the canary in the coal mine, the warning to stop burning fossil fuels and find clean alternatives. Shell doesn’t see it that way. The oil company sees open ocean where once there was 3m thick sheet ice and thinks, “We could drill there now.”

So Shell is off to the Alaskan Arctic in search of the last drop of oil. In the process, it will spread carbon across our skies warming the planet, as well as oil across the world’s most fragile ecosystem, hastening its collapse.

And when the oil has been burnt and the ice has all melted, the ocean currents will change. All the sun’s heat that was once reflected by the shield of sea ice will be absorbed by the open, black waters. Just as the radiation from nuclear tests spread around the world, and the carbon emissions from Shell’s oil spread around the world, so that heat will spread around the world.

If you live on Earth, it will affect you.

Unless we stop them.

The founders of Greenpeace were eleven hippies in a boat but they built a movement that ended commercial whaling, stopped toxic dumping and protected Antarctica.

You are part of that movement. Together, we are three million people. We have 40 years’ experience of winning campaigns, protecting ecosystems and stopping companies like Shell.

Later this week, we’re going back to save the place where we were born, and to save the world. A movement like Greenpeace can do that, and there’s only one movement like us.

Come with us.

Graham Thompson
Greenpeace UK

http://www.greenpeace.org.uk/arctic

 

WHY CAN’T PEOPLE RESPECT NATURE?

My spouse and I were invited to celebrate on of my nephew’s son’s birthday.  They decided to have it at a Provincial Park – a park my parent’s began taking us to over 30 years ago.  The celebration was fun and the day was beautiful!  My only complaint is how ignorant and disrespectful people are towards our environment.

Everywhere I looked – there was garbage.  People left beer bottles, plastic water bottles, balloons, bottle caps, newspapers, coffee cups, diapers,  fast food containers/garbage and various other waste items scattered about the park.  The ironic thing about all the garbage everywhere is that there were recycle and waste bins everywhere throughout the park.  Is it so hard to walk your trash to a container and separate the recycling from the actual waste?  I guess to many people – this is a very complicated matter.  Do people think because it is a provincial park that the workers can pick up the garbage they left behind?  Are people not aware that by not throwing out their own garbage that park rates will go up because of their ignorance.  Not too mention – the impact the garbage will have on the wildlife – animals can’t digest plastic – just like we can’t.  If people continue to leave all their garbage in the parks, the animals will eat it, get sick and die.

I was very conscious of the garbage near the water shoreline, in the water, in bushes, etc.  My resolution was that if I started to pick some of the waste up and throw it into bins that others would follow my example.  I mentioned to the family members that were there that it was important to teach our children to respect our environment and wildlife.  I suggested that they don’t throw plastic bottles/caps into the bush as animals would probably try to eat them.  I also asked that they pick up all the water balloons they tossed around to ensure that they would not be eaten by curious animals/birds.  It was nice to know that most of my family appreciated my concern and ensured that all their garbage and other garbage was collected.

Not only is plastic bottles, coffee cups, paper and other various garbage a problem but there were cigarette butts everywhere!  I not only witness people litter when they throw their cigarette butts out of their cars on the highway or on the road – but they litter our sidewalks and parks with countless cigarette packages and cigarette butts with no regard to the environment and wildlife.  You have a car – are they not equipped with ashtrays?

It is difficult for me to bite my tongue or become upset when I see the lack of respect people have for our environment whether it is at natural parks, city parks, beaches, etc…..THROW YOUR GARBAGE OUT in the proper bins – this is not hard to do and while you are at it – teach your children to respect our environment by teaching them to recycle and to throw out their garbage.  If we all did our part – we can save many animals and our parks can be appreciated the way they were meant to be appreciated.  Lead by example – if you see garbage anywhere – pick it up and throw it out.  What is the worst thing that can happen – someone will witness your action and follow your example.  Do your part!

14 Steps That Will Evolve Your Views on Eating Animals

I found this article very informative.  This is a great tool for me to use to explain why I became a vegetarian (I am currently 80% vegan).  Please read the article without judgement as it is meant to inform.  I hope that you find it as informative as I did and creates an awareness in you to make more conscious decisions about our environment, animals and the planet.

http://www.peta.org/living/vegetarian-living/14-steps-that-will-evolve-your-views-on-eating-animals.aspx

I would really encourage comments about the article and whether or not it helped you understand some of the benefits of becoming a vegetarian.  Peta.org has some great information for anyone who is considering a more healthy lifestyle choice for all ages.  You can find some great vegetarian and vegan recipes, review the growing list of celebrity vegans and vegetarians or browse a great gallery of all our animal friends.  There is also some great reference materials and many other resources to ensure you make ‘kind’ choices in your life for yourself and for all animals.

Cow and calf

***pictures are not mine – borrowed from PETA photo gallery – www.peta.org***

Please spread this article/post, love and positive energy into our world!!!

Love, light and happiness!

Rob