A DIFFERENT KIND OF LOVE SONG

WORDS – they can hurt, they can kill, they can make your cry, they can make you laugh but most importantly, they can heal.  What people say to you or to others can cause so many conflicting emotions and sometimes not all good emotions.  We must really think carefully about the words we choose before we say them.

I have been involved in so many heated discussions about things I am passionate about – animals, the environment and the LGBTQ community.  I have used harsh words to express my beliefs and those words may have been misconstrued as anger because of the tone in which I used BUT, the words I used for those such passions are words that I mean.

I am sure that I have used unkind words to express how I feel about others but I practice daily to ensure I don’t use words that my cause undue hardship on others.

Do you think about the words you use on a daily basis to express how you feel about others?  Make a conscious effort to really think about what you are about to say about someone or a situation.  Are your words going to be positive, nurturing and supportive or are they going to be cruel, judgemental and negative?

Words can cut right through your heart – think about a song you love and think about the experience you associate that song with.  Is it heartbreak, pain, suffering?  Is it love, a treasured memory – is it uplifting, comforting and empowering?  There have been many lyrics written by some of my favourite artists that have made me feel so many emotions – even put tears in my eyes.  Is it the way the artist(s) sing the song(s) or could it be the subject matter of the lyrics that made me feel whatever it is I felt when I listen to those specific songs.  For me, it depends on the artist.

Take for instance the empowering song called “Fly Again” written by Kristine Weitz and Jessse Houk.  The song is a battle cry to rise from the ashes and soar again.  It is sung by Kristine W and was from the album of the same name.  If you are familiar with the artist, you would know that the story behind the song was Kristine W’s fight with myeloid leukaemia in which she looked death in the face and prevailed.  Powerful, right?

Then there is the song “Tonight” written by Elton John and Bernie Taupin from Elton John’s album ‘Blue Moves’.  The song is so emotionally charged and so heartfelt the it pierces your soul.  The original recording was fantastic.  In 1991, George Michael recorded a version for the tribute album to Elton John and Bernie Taupin called, “Two Rooms, Celebrating the Songs of Bernie Taupin & Elton John”.  This version was, in my opinion, much more emotional and actually made me cry upon my first listen – I still get a teary-eyed each time I revisit George Micheal’s version.

In 2002, Cher released a single post 9/11 written by Sigurd Rosnes, Johan Aberg and Michelle Lewis entitled, ‘A Different Kind of Love Song’.  This song really captured the mood of the world after the events of 9/11 – our moods were sober, bleak and depressing and we needed hope.  These writers gave us a silver lining in their words and Cher brought them to life.  Here are the lyrics

“A Different Kind Of Love Song
What if the world was crazy and I was sane
Would it be so strange
I can’t believe that I am alone in saying
The things I’m saying
I am – part of you
These are – universal truths
We’re all – part of the light that flows through everything

This is a different kind of love song
Dedicated to everyone
Different kind of love song, 
This is a different kind of love song
A higher plane we can go on
Different kind of love song

What if the world calmed down and we could all breathe
Together easily
Connecting the sky and the ground with you and me
And everything in between
I am – part of you
We have – living proof
There is – some kind of light that flows through everything

This is a different kind of love song
This is a different kind of love song
A higher plain we can flow on
Different kind of love song

This is a different kind of love song

 A love song
This is a different kind of love song
Dedicated to everyone
Different kind of love song
This is a different kind of love song
A higher plane we can go on
Different kind of love song

This is a different kind of love song
This is a different kind, a different kind
of love song

What do you think?  Share some of the songs that have lifted your spirit and that have comforted you in a time you needed comforting.
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Imagine from the internet – from the music video “Fly Again” by Kristine W.
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Cover image of Elton John’s album, ‘Blue Notes’ featuring the song, “Tonight”
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Images from the internet from top left and right photos, George Michael performing live.  Bottom photo is the cover art to the album, ‘Two Rooms Celebrating the Songs of Elton John & Bernie Taupin’ featuring Sting, Sinead O’Connor, Kate Bush, Oleta Adams, Jon Bon Jovi and George Michael’s version of “Tonight”.
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Cover image from Cher’s single, “The Music’s No Good Without You/A Different Kind of Love Song” from the album ‘Living Proof’
***All music mentioned above available on iTunes or Amazon.com ***
For information about Kristine W or to purchase her music – please visit; http://kristinew.com/

Together, we can make the world a more positive one.

WHAT I CHOOSE.

There are many things that I choose on a daily basis, here are some examples:

I choose…..

  • who I want to become friends with.
  • what to read.
  • what to eat.
  • where to go shop.
  • how I do my hair.
  • what I wear.
  • what to watch on television.
  • what music to listen to.
  • where to go for dinner.
  • what websites to visit.
  • when I go for a walk.
  • when I go to bed.
  • when to relax and unwind.
  • when to have a cup of coffee, tea or alcoholic beverage.
  • when to be a listener and when to be a talker.
  • what religious ideologies to believe.
  • to become vegan.
  • to practice saving the lives of animals by becoming vegan.
  • the place in which I live.
  • the job that I do.
  • the day I decided to live my authentic life.

The one thing that many people believe that I chose – was my sexuality.  THAT IS SOMETHING I DID NOT CHOOSE – that specific ‘thing’ about me, was something I was born with.  I didn’t, one day, suddenly decide to choose that I liked people of the same-sex.  I don’t believe the writings of any religious denomination and what was written.  Therefor – you can’t preach what YOU believe onto me.  If you believe there is a God – and you have an issue with my sexuality – blame HIM, not me.

People need to STOP projecting their religious beliefs (or choices) onto others.  Nothing good comes from telling others that the way they live their lives and how they were born is wrong.  Most importantly – your religious CHOICES should not have any impact on civil rights.  There should always be a separation of what you choose to believe religiously and government policies.

When YOU project your beliefs onto your children – it only hinders them and may potentially kill them.  Instead encourage your children to explore and to have different viewpoints, thoughts and to be their own individual.

My heart goes out to Tyrone Unsworth, from Brisbane, Australia and so many others who have taken their own lives due to bullying because of their sexuality.

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Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

SING YOUR LIFE…..

We all have our favourite songs – songs we can sing along with, songs we dance to, songs we cry to and songs that make us think.  Music is relative to what you are going through in your life – songs and music make you feel.

Personally, I like songs with deep meaning and make me really feel.  There are few songs that actually put tears in my eyes, here are a few:

Sacrifice by Elton John, You Must Love Me by Madonna, What Doesn’t Belong To You and Back Where You Belong by Sinead O’Connor and Tonight and Mother’s Pride by George Michael.

SING YOUR LIFE by Morrissey is another song that gets me really emotional because for me, the songs meaning is asking me to look at my life, assess what is important and not to listen to the opinions of others and go with what I am feeling not what others tell me to feel or what I think others may feel about me.

I live my life authentically and I definitely SING MY LIFE without any regrets and without worrying about what others may think – are YOU ready to SING YOUR LIFE?  Here are the lyrics to the song:

Sing your life
Any fool can think of words that rhyme
Many others do
Why don’t you?
Do you want to?
Oh…
Sing your life
Walk right up to the microphone
And name
All the things you love
All the things that you loathe

Oh, sing your life
The things that you love
And the things you loathe
Oh, sing your life
Oh, sing your life

La, la-la, la-la, sing your life
La, la-la, la-la, sing your life

Others sang your life
But now is a chance to shine
And have the pleasure of
Saying what you mean
Have the pleasure of
Meaning what you sing
Oh, make no mistake my friend
All of this will end
So sing it now (sing your life)
All the things you love (sing your life)
All the things you loathe
Oh, sing your life
The things that you love
And the things you loathe (sing your life)
Oh, sing oh…
Oh, sing oh…

La, la-la, la-la, sing your life
La, la-la, la-la, sing your life

Don’t leave it all unsaid
Somewhere in the wasteland of your head, oh
Head, oh, head, oh, head, oh
And make no mistake, my friend
Your pointless life will end
But before you go
Can you look at the truth ?
You have a lovely singing voice
A lovely singing voice
And all of those
Who sing on-key
They stole the notion
From you and me
So, sing your life (sing your life)
Sing your life (sing your life)
Oh, sing your oh…
Oh, sing your
Sing your life
Sing your life
Sing your life
Oh, sing your oh…
(Sing your life)
(Sing your life)
Sing your life
(Sing your life)

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Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

 

 

DON’T GIVE IN TO HATE

Allow yourself to disconnect to anything that brings on negative feelings.  This is not an easy task considering the events going on in the world and how so much of corporate and social media is catering to fear, relying on ignorance and causing intentional mass confusion.

Remember what is important to you and remember that we are ALL part of the human race.  We all want peace and harmony.  We want access to clean water and a clean environment.  We want the same opportunities.  Now, more than ever, we need a revolution of love and that revolution begins with YOU!

Take a moment – BREATHE, rejuvenate yourself and know that with love and positive energy, that revolution of love is right around the corner.  We know and understand that the current way is not working for the many and only benefits the few.  This will change, it’s happening now.  People are becoming more aware and the veil of distraction is slowly lifting.  With the truth, comes change and it is up to all of us to ensure that change is born from love.

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

 

LOVE IN DIFFERENT LANGUAGES

LOVE IS UNIVERSAL – Have you ever looked at the word LOVE.  Take a new look at LOVE in 80 different languages in the world.  LOVE knows no boundaries, borders, ethnicities, religions, gender, race or sexual orientation.  LOVE IS LOVE.  Rediscover it with everyone.

Saying Love in Middle-Eastern Languages

Language Ways to say love
Arabic الحب
Hebrew אוהב
Persian عشق
Turkish aşk

Saying Love in African Languages

Language Ways to say love
Afrikaans lief
Chichewa kukonda
Hausa son
Igbo n’anya
Sesotho rata
Somali jeclahay
Swahili upendo
Yoruba ni ife
Zulu ukuthanda

Saying Love in Austronesian Languages

Language Ways to say love
Cebuano paghigugma
Filipino pag-ibig
Indonesian cinta
Javanese tresna
Malagasy fitiavana
Malay suka
Maori aroha

Saying Love in Other Foreign Languages

Language Ways to say love
Esperanto love
Haitian Creole renmen
Latin amare
Let’s not buy into fear or building walls – let’s promote love and positive change everywhere in the world.

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

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“Burning Love”

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN STRAIGHT?

How many times have you been asked a question that makes you wonder if the person asking you that question is serious?  There are countless times when people have asked me, “When did you  realize you were gay?”  I am sure that the question is asked in a malicious manner.  I also believe that what most people mean to ask is, “When did you begin to live your life authentically?”

The LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer) community recently celebrated COMING OUT day.  There was a time in my life in which I thought ‘coming out’ was important if you were a celebrity, professional athlete and even a politician.  I found it gave credibility to the gay community and would allow everyone else to accept us.  I no longer feel this way because I feel we are not ‘coming out’ for anyone but those who are uncomfortable with individuals from the LGBTQ community.  Straight people don’t ask each other how long they have been straight – being heterosexual is just the regular and normal thing.  My ‘straightness’ was a learned behaviour which completely suggests that being homosexual could be a learned behaviour as well, right?  Well according to many of my friends that identify as being heterosexual – you can’t just become gay.

For as long as I can remember – I have always been attracted to the same-sex however, all my life, I have been told that I must find someone of the opposite sex, get married and have children.  Every where I turned, there were couples of the opposite sex cuddling, making out, getting married, having babies and creating their lives.  I turned on the television and it was the same, I opened a magazine and it was more of the same.  Everything around me was heterosexual and many of those same heterosexuals where condemning and judging people who identified as homosexual.

I have never been ‘straight’ – I have never identified as heterosexual, that label was forced upon me.  My authenticity and my identifying with being a homosexual man was conditioned out of me.  I was forced to become straight from society, from family, from my religion and from my friends all because people decided that it wasn’t okay to LOVE.

Don’t oppress, don’t judge – live your life from LOVE and allow people’s differences to shine and to allow them to live the authentic lives they were meant to live.

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

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I’M A WHITE MALE and I BELIEVE BLACK LIVES MATTER

I am not a black male but this fact doesn’t mean that I don’t have empathy for the marginalization, abuse, systemic racism or murder of black men, women and children.  Being a white male, I have definitely not experienced the type of systemic racism and judicial inequality the many black men have faced and experienced.  I don’t fear leaving my house thinking that I may be abused, harassed or even killed by police officers due to the colour of my skin.

As a gay male, I have been harassed and a victim of crime because of my sexuality.  I don’t believe to be what society deems as a “stereotypical gay male” and would not think that I would be singled out and murdered because of my sexuality – at least not in Canada.  I know that many black men and women are targeted by police and are not treated fairly simply because of the colour of their skin.

Many people have defended police forces everywhere indicating that “not all cops are bad or racists.” and “all lives matter.” and even indicating that if black people are not committing crimes or guilty of anything – they wouldn’t be targeted.  I’ve also heard many people, including friends, indicate that the Black Lives Matter movement is just an angry mob asking for trouble.  Correct me if I’m wrong – if a community or group of people have been targeted throughout history, wouldn’t you have the right to peacefully protest that marginalization.  Yes, there have been many atrocities committed against minorities and many minorities continue to be treated in horrific ways – their movement will come.  Today – every other story in social media is about a black person being brutally beaten or killed at the hands of police.  I have read stories of white males committing the same or worse crimes than black individuals and are given much lesser sentences.  White men and women across America are paid more than most visible minorities.  The incarceration rate of minorities far outweighs the incarceration rates of white people.  Opportunities are not the same for minorities because of income inequality and I don’t understand why many doubt these facts!

I have three nephews and one niece who are bi-racial, born to white mothers and black fathers, and I see the difference in how they are treated.  I always think of them as they go about their daily routines and imagine that they will mostly likely be stopped and targeted because of the colour of their skin.  This sickens me to the core of my being.  Yes, all lives matter but today, it is the lives of those who are being targeted and killed that I stand with.  I want my niece and my nephews to have the same chances in life as most white men and women but that isn’t going to happen until there are some fundamental changes in how people view and treat visible minorities. In the meantime – BLACK LIVES MATTER protests should continue, voices should be raised because right now there is a lack of respect for black people and other minorities.

It seems that the lives of minorities are less valued.  When people such as policemen and politicians show a lack of respect for minorities – why should the average person? It is irresponsible when someone who is running for president of the United States of America and leader of the (not so) FREE WORLD spews hate speech and demoralizes a whole group of people.  That isn’t leadership – that is preying on people’s fear, hatred and ignorance.

Remaining complacent and ignorant does nothing to create positive change in the world – it is those who stand up to tyranny, ignorance, hate and fear that make the world a better place.  So, instead of criticizing and continuing to marginalize certain minorities – why not try STANDING with them and supporting them?

BLACK LIVES MATTER!!

Together, we can make the world a more positive one!

 

 

DON’T LET THE HATE IN!

Today, a human decided that it was his responsibility to be judge, jury and executioner of innocent people enjoying their day. Omar Mir Seddique Mateen killed 50 people today – 50 people who were celebrating joy, happiness, love and life.  I am outraged.

I read a Facebook post that included tweets congratulating the shooter for ridding the world of these 50 human beings.  Why?  Simply because they were born gay.  Most of the comments were in support of the shootings because homosexuality is a sin according to religious doctrine and ideologies.  I become completely outraged when people use their religion or their God to reinforce their hatred of something.  This hate stems from a doctrine that was clearly written by man in order to bend the shape of society so that they are controlled and conformed.  This belief that I have about religion doesn’t come from hate or any violence, it is from my life experience that not much good comes from religion.

In my short life on this planet, I have witnessed the horrors of hunger, the genocide of animal species, the never-ending destruction of our planet, religious greed, corporate greed, poverty, slavery and so much more and no God or religion has presented a solution that these atrocities will ever stop.  But I have hope.

HOPE is a word filled with never ending possibilities that humans from all backgrounds and lifestyles will come together and create positive and lasting change in the world.  As I said, I am outraged that this happened.  I am outraged that you can buy a gun from a corporation who feels it is necessary to be protected yet, most of their employees need to supplement their income with food stamps in order not to starve.  I am outraged that Americans and so many individuals in LGBTQ  communities around the world had to fight for simple civil liberties while governments negotiate war.  I am outraged that people continue to die because of someone else’s religious beliefs.  I am outraged that we glorify HATE so much more than we promote LOVE.  But I am hopeful.

My heart and thoughts are with the families of those who lost their love one’s today.  This year, let’s celebrate PRIDE for them!  To all my LGBTQ brothers and sisters around the world – HAPPY GAY PRIDE!

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LOW LEVEL ENERGIES DON’T HAVE TO LAST.

Low energy feelings can come from anywhere and from any situation – it is how we deal with them that will either benefit you or keep you feeling down.

Understand where the low-level energies come from:  What triggered your low level energy feelings?  Was it an argument you had with a significant other, family member or a friend?  Was there a stressful situation you had to deal with at work?  Was there a death of someone who is close to you?  Are you watching too much negative television?  Whatever the issue is – know that you are capable of addressing it right away.  If you had an argument with someone, don’t put blame just ask for understanding and forgiveness so that both parties involved can move forward in a positive way.  Dealing with issues at work can also be very stressful and cause low-level energy feelings – these issues can also be dealt with by talking with your employer, co-worker’s or Human Resources department by bringing the issue to them in a positive manner and asking for assistance to resolve the issue.  When death happens, we can’t ask for emotional healing overnight, there is a process to healing and you must let that process happen naturally.  Don’t let anyone tell you when or how long you have to heal, we all grieve differently.

Redirect the low-level energies by doing something positive:  The best way to get rid of low-level energies is to engage in something you love.  Write, draw, paint, dance, sing, walk, exercise, talk, do whatever it takes to bring love in to distinguish hate, anger or sadness.  If you are depressed or angry, take your depression and anger out by exercising and getting your blood flowing.  Feelings of sadness will diminish if you bring joy, laughter and love to others in need.  Surround yourself with animals if they make you happy – they love unconditionally and always bring joy and love into our lives.  Allowing yourself to engage in the activities you love will ensure that you will always remain joyful and filled with positive energy. 

WE ARE NOT ALONE – we all experience low-level energy feelings, we may not know what others are experiencing and why they may be expressing their low-level energies onto you.  Remove yourself from that negative situation and send healing and love to the person who is expressing those low-level energies.

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Together, we can make the world a more positive one!